Typical behaviours exhibited by children linked to their stage of development and events in their lives.
Behaviour and how and why behaviour can be linked to stage of development or key events in life
Baby picks up a toy and strikes another child with it. – Babies do not have any concept of the feeling of others and would not recognise that their actions could hurt someone.
A toddler throws a tantrum because he can??™t get a toy to work.- Toddler??™s get very frustrated as they build independence but do not always have the motor skills yet to do what they want to do.
A pre-school child plays too roughly after watching the older children play football and makes one of the toddlers cry.- Pre-school children experiment and copy what they see and hear, this can often lead them to act inappropriately.
A school age child uses inappropriate language when they fall over and hurt themselves. – Children often copy what they have seen adults do and this could be a response from that.
A toddler grabs a toy from another child. – Toddler??™s are not ready to share yet and will need reminding.
How ground rules for behaviour and expectations are developed and implemented
Children are not born with an understanding of what is acceptable behaviour. Childminders play a vital part in promoting positive behaviour. I actively promote positive behaviour, which stems from children being empowered, valued and respected. In my house my rules will be made around things that are important to parents, children and me. For example, keeping children safe. I have written a behaviour policy which will be given to parents to discuss at our first meeting. Developing and sharing your expectation and ground rules will help children feel secure, they are then more likely to conform once they understand what the house rules are and why they are there.
All children at the setting will be introduced to the ground rules as early as possible. (Depending on the age of the child) There will be a copy of these on the wall and we will have a discussion about what the rules mean. The rules will be straight forward and easy for the child to understand. It might also be possible to have a discussion about how the rules apply to the child individually and talk about the positive things that they can do whilst they are with me.
Here are my initial rules;
??? Everyone will treat each other with respect
??? Everyone will treat the toys and equipment with respect
Most situations can be covered under these rules and they will be an opening point when challenging a child??™s behaviour.
We will also have a reward chart so that good behaviours are recognised. If a child does something good like help another child tidy away, they will receive a star. Once a child has ten stars they get a reward which may be something as simple as getting to choose a cartoon to watch. The reward will depend on the motivation for each individual child.
Riddall ??“Leach, S (2010) Home-based Childcare For childminders and nannies: Pearson Education Ltd